The unseen opponent: Tackling the first year of retirement

It's been three months since you hung up your boots, and the world feels different. The roar of the crowd, the camaraderie of the changing room, the adrenaline of game day – it's all in the past. Retirement, a word that once seemed distant, is now your reality.

While you've likely had education and guidance on transition and retirement planning, the truth is that over 50 per cent of former professional athletes struggle in this first year, regardless of their preparation. This isn't a sign of weakness; it's a testament to the profound impact that professional sport has on your identity, routine, and purpose.

This blog post is your guide to navigating the often-turbulent waters of the first year of retirement. We'll explore common challenges, delve into coping strategies, and highlight how to build a fulfilling life beyond the rugby field.

Common challenges in the first year of retirement

Loss of identity: For years, you've defined yourself as a rugby player. Your identity was intertwined with your performance, your team, and your place in the sport. Now, that identity is shifting, and it can feel disorienting.

Lack of structure and routine: The highly structured routine of training, matches, and travel is gone. This sudden lack of structure can lead to feelings of aimlessness and a lack of purpose.

Diminished camaraderie: The close bonds formed with teammates in the changing room are hard to replicate in everyday life. This can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness.

Emotional and mental health challenges: Anxiety, depression, and even grief are common during this period. The loss of the sport you love, combined with the other challenges of retirement, can take a toll on your mental well-being.

Physical changes: Your body is no longer undergoing the intense training regimen of a professional athlete. This can lead to weight gain, decreased fitness, and even a sense of disconnect from your physical self.

Financial adjustment: Unless you've meticulously planned, retirement often means a change in income. Adjusting to a new financial reality can be stressful.

Trigger points: The start of a new season, seeing your former team play, or even just watching rugby on TV can trigger feelings of nostalgia, sadness, and even a sense of "missing out."

Coping strategies for a successful transition

Acknowledge your feelings: Don't suppress your emotions. Allow yourself to grieve the loss of your playing career, acknowledge the challenges, and give yourself time to adjust.

Build a new routine: Create a daily or weekly schedule that provides structure and purpose. Include activities that you enjoy, whether it's exercise, hobbies, volunteering, or spending time with loved ones.

Stay connected: Maintain relationships with your former teammates, friends, and family. Join social groups or clubs to build new connections and combat feelings of isolation.

Focus on your physical health: Find new ways to stay active and maintain your fitness. This could involve joining a gym, taking up a new sport, or simply going for regular walks or runs.

Explore new interests and passions: Retirement is an opportunity to discover new hobbies, pursue further education, or even start a new career. Embrace this chance for personal growth and exploration.

Seek professional support: If you're struggling, don't hesitate to reach out to a therapist or counselor specialising in athlete transitions. They can provide guidance and support as you navigate this new chapter.

Practice mindfulness: Be present in the moment and appreciate the new opportunities that retirement offers. Avoid dwelling on the past or comparing yourself to your former athlete self.

Embrace your future: Accept that your rugby career is over, but remember that you have a wealth of skills, experiences, and knowledge to offer the world. Embrace the possibilities and look forward to a fulfilling future beyond the game.

Support networks: You Don't Have to Go It Alone

Friends and family: Lean on your loved ones for support, understanding, and encouragement. Share your feelings and challenges with them.

Former team-mates: Stay connected with your former teammates, who are likely going through similar experiences. Share stories, offer support, and maintain those valuable bonds.

Past Player Associations: Many past player associations offer support, resources, and social events for retired players. Connect with your association to tap into this network.

RL Cares: Organisations like RL Cares provide guidance, resources, and support programs specifically designed for retired rugby league players. Don't hesitate to reach out and utilise their services.

Professional support: Therapists, counsellors, and career coaches can provide expert guidance and support as you navigate the challenges of retirement and plan your future.

A message to all the 2024 Rretirees

This is your time. You've dedicated years to the demanding world of professional rugby. Now, it's time to focus on yourself, your well-being, and your future. Embrace the challenges, celebrate the wins, and remember that you have a community of support behind you.

Retirement is not an ending; it's a new beginning. It's a chance to redefine yourself, explore new passions, and build a life filled with purpose and fulfilment.